This past weekend I had the honor of being an expert panelist at The Wisdom Coalition’s Winter Renewal Retreat via their live podcast. Since it is so close to Valentine’s Day the theme for the event was self-love. More than 40 women joined together, networked, collaborated, and shared some special moments that brought such a vibrant energy to Bell Gate Farm.
There was a self-defense demonstration, a paper flower making activity, refreshments, and the podcast. During the podcast itself you could see the women resonating with what was being said. The fact that we don’t think we are enough. The idea that we compare ourselves to others and thus rob ourselves of our own joy. But one topic that resonated deeply was the idea of being our authentic self.
What does that even mean?
“To thine own self be true”. I’m sure you’ve heard that before. It was said by Polonius in Shakespeare’s Hamlet. But how many of you actually live by those words?
While social media is a blessing on so many levels it’s also a curse. Society has placed such pressure on all of us to be right, do right, be accepted, look a certain way, etc… that we have lost sight of who we truly are. We have let people who have no influence on our life influence it. That’s nuts!
So how do we know who we truly are?
Think back to when you were a child. There were no preconceived notions of who you were or what you could or should be. What fueled your soul? Was it playing with cars or dolls? Was it coloring and crafts? Was it your love of animals? Was it selling lemonade at your homemade stand? Was it working with your hands, building things from scratch? Was it using your imagination to come up with some wild inventions (that may or may not have worked)? Whatever made you happy back then will still make you happy today. That is who you truly are! That is what makes you tick. And if you are not feeling happy and fulfilled today it’s because you are far away from your authentic self.
I see this all the time with my clients. And honestly, all it takes it a few moments to be honest with yourself – regardless of what society, your friends, or your family might think. We all have special gifts and talents. What we need to do is capitalize on them and then share them with the world with pride, not self-doubt.
I encourage you over the next week to dig deep and truly find your authentic self. And then make small changes to get to who you really are.
Because guess what – YOU ARE ENOUGH!