Coaching · Life · Motivation · opportunity · personal development · Transformation

What is holding you back?

In my consulting business I see it quite often.  Someone has a dream, a passion, and we work together to come up with plan to achieve what they want to achieve.   And the plan is not hard.  We are not setting up blueprints to make a million dollars overnight, but it’s more about small, daily, and consistent action.  We even sent attainable benchmarks based upon those consistent actions.  And everything looks great on paper.

But then it happens.

All of a sudden the mind starts playing tricks.  They start to get into action and then it hits.  They start to wonder if this is really possible.  They start to wonder what other people might think of them  They start to say to themselves “what if I fail”.  They start to question their passion.  They start to have self-doubt!

I’m sure you can relate because I don’t care who you are, we have all been there a few (or many) times in our life for various reasons. Even the most successful people in the world are not immune to it.  But the key is how to overcome it.

Here are some tips I give my clients on how best to deal with self-doubt when it rears its ugly head:

  1. Get into more action.  It may seem contradictory since getting into action is more than likely what triggered the self-doubt.  But you need to work through it and the only way to get out of the paralysis is to do more!  And not to become busier, but become more productive.  Because when you are more productive, you start seeing the results of your work.
  2.  Break down goals further.  I tend to break down goals into yearly, quarterly and monthly, but sometimes its necessary to create weekly or even daily goals.  And not to the point of bringing on the sense of overwhelm and anxiety but to bring more clarity to the situation.   And with that clarity comes the crushing of your goals.
  3. Self-development.  I will continue to say this until I am blue in the face…self-development is everything.  If you are not learning or progressing towards a better version of yourself through books, webinars, podcasts, or personal coaching, you will always have self-doubt holding you back.
  4. Gratitude.  You might think this has no correlation to self-doubt but it certainly does.  When you are focusing on negative aspects of your life, that’s when it’s easiest for self-doubt to enter.  But when you focus on what is good and going right in your life, self-doubt tends to slowly go away
  5. Progress not perfection.  One of my mentors instilled this into me.  For whatever reason we have turned into a society wanting quick fixes and things to be perfect.  Life is messy.  Sometimes it can get really messy.  But as long as you are better than you were yesterday, even in the slightest bit, you are making progress.

I have seen self-doubt ruin more dreams than anything else.  But when you learn to drop that, to not keep making up stories in your head, to focus on what you CAN do and accomplish rather than what you can’t, I can guarantee you – you WILL hit your goal!!

If you’re ready to learn how to kick self-doubt to the curb and want to see if I can help you, let’s set up a time to chat because EVERYONE deserves to reach whatever goal they want to achieve.


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